Women Are Many Things Throughout Their Lives
But Never Forget They Are Always Girls
The women in your life are many things. Some are daughters; some are sisters. Some are friends; some are mothers. Some are wives and partners. Some are aunts; some are stepmothers. Some are grandmothers and great-grandmothers. Some are at school and university. Some are mothers of children at home. Some are working in a myriad of occupations. Some are soldiers and nurses, and some are lawyers. Some are retired. Some may be disabled. Some are fit and able, and others, as they age, have to rely on others for help. Some are married, and some are widows. Some have never married. Some are divorced. Some have large extended families, while others are alone.
However, the one thing they all are is they will always be girls. For some, that is evident as the teen girl develops into womanhood and motherhood. And then, as age and motherhood progress, we often lose sight of the truth that women are still girls. As women mature and grow old, we forget they are still girls. We may also consider them ladies. Whatever the definition of a lady may be, that is.
In my life, I have two great examples of beautiful mature women who haven't forgotten they are also girls. The first is the 'Bad Mothers.' These ladies have been friends since being young mothers. Over 25 years, they have grown into very close friends. They have fun together. They have been there for one another. They are beautiful independent people who can be tough if necessary. They have had happy times and sad times. They all have different personalities. They laugh and cry. But they have never forgotten they are girls. We would say they are young at heart. They can be serious one minute and naughty girls the next.
The second is a beautiful 90-year-old aunt who, as we speak, can no longer take care of herself due to infirmity and disability. She has been independent since her husband passed away two years ago. She never had her own children but is blessed with two dedicated nieces. She is frail and tiny. While it is true, she forgets some things; her mind is still sharp and witty. A beautiful woman she has been and still is. Indeed, I would argue a lady also. But it is also apparent to those who take the time to talk with her that she is still a girl in every way. She still has that naughty sparkle in her eyes and can be a tease. Everybody I know loves her dearly and has done throughout her long life. She is a respected and beloved old lady who still knows how to flicker her eyelids while at the same time showing her beautiful smile. She is an excellent example of what a woman, a lady, and a girl are.
As the Christmas season approaches, please take the time to look around you, your extended family and friends, your neighbors, and even perhaps a lone aged widow in your neighborhood. Remember that all people, both men, and women, are not just the exterior you see. They are young boys and girls inside a body that has aged with time. As with every young boy and girl, they need love and attention. The best thing you can do for these older boys and girls is to give them the best gift you have, which is your time. Talk and chat. After all, these were the hippies of the sixties; yes, your grandma wore mini skirts and knee-length leather shiny boots. She was a rebel at one time and still may be. This girl has much to share and recall.
And a reminder for you, no matter who you are, you are still a girl and a boy. So don't lose the joy of life; laugh every day, and love yourself and the others around you.
© Stephen G. Arrowsmith 2022
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